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Life is just a Bowl of Cherries
Entire cultures, religions and belief systems are based on the meaning we give to certain events, occurrences and actions.
Yet the way we give meaning to things heavily depends on the belief systems we grew up with – and on how those beliefs are challenged – if ever!
How do you interpret things?
Where do you look for meaning?
What system do you turn to, to give guidance to your thoughts and beliefs?
And how often do you hold that guidance system up against the light of “Truth”?
How Arbitrary Are Your Beliefs?
The world I see is vastly different from the world you see, because the world is what you think it is.
But the real difference between our worlds is in how we perceive them – independent of any hard ‘realities’.
What, then, is the truth of a tree? What is the truth of a forefather? What is the truth of future generations? What is the truth of a car? And what is the truth of a god?
The truth is a bit of an arbitrary concept at the best of times!
You, with your knowledge of the world, a knowledge which has been passed on to you by others, have no way of knowing the truth.
You can only make the decision to hold an assumption as true.
Are you locking people in?
We don’t know always know why things happen a certain way – but that doesn’t stop us from coming up with our own interpretation of events.
It’s how we make sense of the world.
But if we start projecting that interpretation onto other people, we lock them into what we expect them to do. And that is actually what they’ll end up doing!
Because we really are that powerful as creators. The force of our expectations is great indeed!
That’s why it’s called ‘locking them in’.
As a result of this force, others will end up doing what we expect them to do.
And we won’t even see it…
When boundaries aren’t being honoured…
Sometimes you state your boundaries and the other person just doesn’t seem to pick up on them.
This particularly sucks when you’re dealing with clients. Because you want their business and even when you wish they would just disappear from your life, you can’t afford to alienate them (bad publicity and they still have to pay that last invoice you sent!)
Not having your boundaries honoured is even more frustrating when you’re in the creative profession.
You create something for someone against a previously agreed upon price and they’re not happy with the product. Now what?
How to enforce your boundaries with someone who seems to feel you still owe them and who doesn’t even want to compensate you for all the extra hours you’ve already put in – and will still have to put in.
Don’t know how it is for you, but when I lose track, I lose my sense of connection. The other day there was a bump on the tracks and I lost momentum.
The timing couldn’t have been worse: I had just launched a campaign and the last thing I wanted was to lose momentum.
But there it was!
So out came the whip!
And this is what I see many of us do:
When we lose momentum, when we lose our sense of connection with what we’re doing and why, well, that’s when we break out the whip!
We start getting on our own case. Because we know what we should be doing and we know that what we are doing is not effective and.. and..
The list of things we tell ourselves and what we reprimand ourselves with is endless!
Talking with the body – on a whole new level…
I don’t mind admitting that I’m a little blasé in terms of the spiritual information that’s out there, and more often than not my only thought is one of relief: that mainstream seems to be catching up. I’m also well past the point where the stories serve as confirmation for my own ‘weird belief system’, cos I’ve got that part covered by now, it’s no longer an issue.
But sometimes, you come across an article that really makes something go ‘click’. And that’s what happened recently when I came across Therese Wade’s article “How to Heal Yourself by Talking to your Body”.
Talking to the body is nothing new as a concept. But there was one part in all of it that I had somehow managed to overlook, and as I read her words I realised that, for years, I had had it all wrong!
Wow! Some Harvest Moon Eclipse! That was one hefty week!
Fortunately I know better than to ignore a Harvest Moon Eclipse: if there’s one ‘planet’ I can rely on to influence me, it’s the Moon… (okay, okay, she’s not a planet, but what do you want me to say: earth’s only natural satellite?).
I was just getting ready to dig down into a project, when this Harvest Moon hit. Don’t know ’bout you, but I’ve been crying for the best part of last week. And now, the Sunday morning after, I feel refreshed, energized – and ready to get crackin’.
The Old Sailor
This is a delightful poem on procrastination – by A.A. Milne, creator of Winnie the Pooh.
It’s pretty much how I feel today: with so many things which I wanted to do
but, whenever I think it is time to begin… I can’t because of the state that I’m in…
Know the feeling?
I discovered pancakes…
“Good for me” and “Who cares?” – right?
But I’ll tell you why it matters – at least to me: it was a sensory discovery. I realised I enjoyed the experience.
I’m from before the internet and maybe you can relate: when we first had to come to terms with how we were different, there was no google search available. The other day I sat eating a carrot and I got this familiar burning sensation on my tongue that I sometimes get when I eat raw carrots. It had never occurred to me to google it before, but this time I did. Turns out carrots are something one can be allergic to. Who knew?!
There’s a lot of things I don’t like. Things I don’t like eating, things I don’t like doing, things I don’t like, period. Over the years I have learned to connect many ‘irregular’ things to being HSP (Highly Sensitive Person), but only lately have I started to see a new kind of connection…read more